Ready or not?

There comes a time in every person's life when they finally meet the person of their dreams. The person they believe they will spend forever with, or at least the rest of their life. However, how long is forever really?

I have come across this very interesting theory that a man doesn't really fall in love but in fact just comes to the point in their life when they feel they are ready to settle down. Is it even possible for a man to feel this chemical reaction within themselves the way a newly mother feels love for a baby they just met? There are so many love stories and romance movies that lead us to believe that if we were meant for someone, they would both feel some type of way. But what if, this belief or feeling is well adjusted to be one sided? What if, this feeling is only valid to women?

In my opinion, I honestly believe that a man doesn't "find the right one" but instead just comes to some realization. The realization that when all the games and chasing is done and over with, they are ready to settle down. Once they have that lovely epiphany, it's whichever woman happens to be walking pass them, is the "right one".

As skeptical as this sounds, I for one, have experienced this. The relationship began to die down when I realized that he was more than ready to settle down, and I was not. Unfortunately for me, I have the mind set of a man. Fortunately for everyone else, I know how the men feel.

birthday bash

Every girl's dream on her birthday is to be treated like a princess. It's that time of the year when anything she says goes. That's exactly what I got this year.

I have the greatest friends a girl could ever ask for, they take out you, let you have what you want and on top of everything they made you feel like the luckiest girl in the world. So what else could a girl possibly want?

Of course, the party of the year. Almost like a Project X type experience. And quite honestly, that's exactly what I got. I decided to have a birthday bash. No parents, no morals, just a shit ton of alcohol and good people all around. Now, my idea of a great party was to have everyone at my house basically just let loose. I didn't realize that was an open invitation to the rest of the world. This party started out pretty hectic. There were people there at 9 pm when the party didn't start til 11 pm. So no big deal right? Party just started a little too early right?

Wrong. To begin with, there were people already there that I didn't know. I guess I should be happy that people showed up with their own alcohol at least. But towards the end of the night, I had already gotten into a physical altercation and was sober-stressed, it was unreal. By the end of the night, I had expected about 15-20 people, the outcome had become over 100 people. It was as much Project X as it could possibly get. At one point there was a line to get into my own apartment, it was like you would've thought a poppin' ass club just opened.

Bottom line and moral of the story? Don't let a bunch of college kids find out you have free crib and alcohol.

Summer Romances

I usually don't believe in this popular cliche of summer romances, but I can't deny that I've been a product of one or two. 

When someone is foolish enough to think that a budding romance from a summer fling can evolve to something more than the heat of the moment and the passion of the season, it takes a toll on their future decision on other possible romances. For example, I can be madly in love that one summer season, but by the end of it I'm heart broken. Do you think I'd be more open to other possibilities of love despite the different situation or circumstance? Obviously not.

So then why do we still gamble our feelings with these lucid affairs? 

There's always the obvious answer which is: the couple were in love the season. Then there's the unpopular answer: the two were looking for something to do. At last there's the absolute positive answer: summer romances are the all time fairy tale love that people can have in real life. 

If you really think about it, where do most successful summer romances occur? Movies and books. There's the ever popular Nicholas Spark's The Notebook and the absolute favorite 500 Days of Summer. Everyone wants the perfect ending and what better way to start by having your very own summer romance. Unfortunately, through personal experience, the summer heat dies down, so does the "fire burning" love you'll have for each other. The passion will come and go faster you can even say "fall season". Either way, this cliche of summer romance needs to pass. It's becoming a bore, I need something better to tell my friends this coming fall, other than saying "sorry, I didn't really have an eventful summer" just because everyone else had that one summer romance.

Keep calm and carry on

What do you do when you're fresh out of college, young, but no plans?

Absolutely nothing. What else is there to do? The fact that every possible job from retail to business office assistant needs past experience makes it very inconvenient for anyone to have any chance in the real world.

It's one thing for college students to refer to post-college graduation as "being in the real world". Everyone refers to it as this because when we're in college, we're meant to mess up and have someone else pick up the pieces. Or better yet, when we shit the bed, excuse the expression. However, once we cross that line, or stage, grab our swords, or diploma, we're thrown into the pits of the lion's den. We're defenseless and even hopeless at some point. 

Our college student excuses are no longer valid and our mistakes now defines us whereas it didn't have the right to define us before. It's frightening as well as suicidal to head into the world with no plans and no help. 

So what is there to do? Wait and see? Run and head on? Or stroll and relax? I say run. But when it comes to the point where you can't run, then walk. If you can't walk, then crawl. Do everything you can, just as long as you keep moving forward. 

Better way of putting it? Look back once in a while to see what you've accomplished or how far you've come because many don't even get to have the chance, but always look forward and remember that no one got anywhere going backwards.